Loving Intentions or Simple Lust?

This is essay is not about spirituality but I share it here to shed some light on some of the questions women have relating to their relationships with the men in their lives. What I am about to share here for all women (young and old) can be a rather harsh and difficult truth to accept and come to terms with. Let me be clear at the onset that this truth applies to men in general and not to all men. This is advice that I give my own daughters and female friends whom I care about.

Men make an instantaneous (practically automatic) discernment at the very moment they first cast their eyes on a woman they are attracted to. They discern that the woman is either:
(1) someone with whom they can enjoy sexual fun and pleasure with and (quite soon after) leave and discard once they have had their fill and move on to the next, or
(2) a serious contender for their heart and soul and whom they would consider living the rest of their lives and possible starting a family with.

How can one a woman what is going on in the mind of your date? Here is one surefire and certain way to tell.

If the subject of sex in any manner, degree, shape or form is brought up at any moment in the first date then the woman can be certain that the man has discerned her to be type (1) and looked upon with pure lust (whether the man realizes this himself or not) with short term expectations.

For a man who discerns a woman to be type (2) as described above, sex would be the farthest thing on (even absent from) his mind. The man would be so enamored that he is completely focused on getting to know and connecting with the person inside the object of his sentiment. In fact, sex will not even venture into his mind until well into the point when he and the woman both have developed a high level of connection and intimacy such that the thought of sex would naturally arise more as a result of the desire to be as physically close and connected to her as he can be in order to express through physical means that sense of spiritual intimacy. For some men, they may respect and look at the woman as they do their own mothers so much so that they would repress any natural development of the desire for sex with her (not a good thing either).

While it is certainly true that sincere feelings of love can and has been observed to develop with relationships that started out as purely lustful in nature from the very beginning, these have sadly been proven (many more times than not) to be short-lived and lacking much longevity.

With this awareness about men and the way men think and feel, you should be in a better position to make well informed decisions concerning your numerous dates, set reasonable expectations and increase your likelihood for success in fulfilling what you desire the most from the dating experience.

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